Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker’s last blog post..What Is God?

I agree that love is the answer. Self-love of ALL of who we are. Yes, without judgment. We just are. But when something happens and we are faced with a part of us that we have pushed away and that we have tried to ignore or pretend wasn’t there, we are asking for trouble unless we can bring awareness to the shadow.

When we can see ‘ruthless’ in others, but not in ourselves, this is information from the universe inviting us to love ourselves. It’s easy to love the part of me that is nice, or supportive, or compassionate. My call to all of us is: How can I love the rude part of me? or the mean part of me? or the ruthless part of me. My call is to bring people (including myself) to an integrated whole. To love the totality of who I am, not just the parts that are acceptable to others. To love the totality of who you are, not just the parts that you show the world.

Debbie Ford says in her newest book, “Why Good People do Bad Things,” that we need our light and dark to be whole and when we “repress the dark side of ourselves, we are only inviting it to manifest itself in unhealthy ways.”

I have repressed ‘ruthless’ for a very long time, only becoming aware of it recently. When we repress our shadow it shows up in our lives unconsciously and when we bring awareness to the shadow, we can use the quality within us for much good in the world–consciously! So, it is the judgment of ruthless that needs to be dealt with. My position that ruthless is bad and all the ways I have tried to avoid being ruthless so I wouldn’t hurt anyone. Well, unconsciously I hurt people in my life. Unconsciously ruthless. I want to use ruthless to build a school in Uganda or to bring peace to the hearts of women. Ruthless is beginning to mean that I don’t give up. That I ask for what I want and that stand up for the underdog.

Maybe you need to use another word for ruthless if you can’t take away the negativity. I like to call it being focused. I am using my blog to focus on wiping out incest and all forms of sexual abuse and child abuse by putting out information and sharing personal stories with whoever finds my blog so that not many more generations have to suffer from the abuse that I did. My goal is to offer hope and courage to other survivors. Some might call me ruthless in doing this. I call it having focus. I call it having the courage to speak out against abuse in all forms. You can also call it persistence.

I have learned that ignoring our shadow selves don’t make them go away or grow up or any of the other things that we want them to do. Sometimes, acknowledgment is all they want. Love all of yourself, Shadow and all.
Patricia

Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker’s last blog post..Ego-centered selfishness vs. Spirit-centered Selfishness

Ruthless is only a word that you have attached great meaning to, you don’t like it, you don’t want it and therefore you fear it.

Nothing programmes the mind more efficiently than fear, and nothing causes you to vibrate at a lower vibration than fear. Those who also vibrate on the fear frequency feed from your fear, you will be surrounded by people who literally, couldn’t live without you.

The anti-dote to fear is love, and only love.

Until you decide that whatever you do, whatever you feel and however you have been emotionally programmed to feel is fine with you, and realise that when you know better, then you’ll do better, and until you choose to stop hating yourself, you will react from pre-programmed emotions that you haven’t chosen.

There is absolutely no need for you to accept or reject anything about yourself, you are perfect. You always have been and you always will be, and anyone who tells you differently doesn’t understand the laws of the universe.

Using words and allotting them as good or bad is judgemental, move away from judgement if you choose to be calm and peaceful in your being.

When I say the word ‘ruthless’ it feels very vibrationally low. Remove it from your vocabulary, and you will no longer entrain with it’s vibration. We are all just decoders of the vibrations around us, and high vibrations always move out the low ones, it is a law of physics. Find high vibrations with which to entrain. Learn to love yourself.

I promise you that once you are fully in love with yourself , then all these worries about what you are or are not will fade away, and your mind will be at peace.