Know FEAR!
December 17, 2007
Fear has been a companion of mine for many years.
I remember being very young and terrified of the shadows the curtains cast on my bedroom wall at night. You would think that as I grew old enough to understand they were only shadows, my fear would subside. It didn’t. My fear of the dark never left me.
Five years ago I attended a weekend workshop and was asked to go into the dark. Alone… Without a flashlight… I found a safe place on the deck and closed my eyes. When I was told I had to leave my safe place and go into the dark, fear took over. As I sat at the bottom of the stairs bridging the safety of the house and the wilderness, I was paralyzed. What was in those shadows? I was so afraid of the dark.
What did my FEAR say?
I am going to be eaten by wild animals.
It didn’t matter to me that no one was ever eaten in those woods. My FEAR said:
They’ve been waiting for me!
Today, after a lot of time in the dark, I know that fear has a purpose in our lives.
The Purpose of fear is to inform.
Fear is a predominate emotion in this country and has lost its informing abilities. We are spoon fed FEAR from our childhood right on through our golden years. It starts out as “You might get hurt,” and ends somewhere around, “You are going to end up alone in a rest home with no visitors.”
We spend so much time in fear that our FEAR has become the automatic place we live our lives from.
Living our lives from FEAR disempowers us from going after our dreams, pursuing our passions, and living our Divine Purpose. When we listen to our fear, as the authority, we often end up with what we are avoiding. My fear of being alone could be so strong that I avoid connecting with people. Or it could be so strong that I appear needy and you avoid me. Either way, I end up alone.
The slogan, “No Fear” is a validation of how much fear we have to overcome in order to live our lives. We need to Know FEAR, to embrace our fear. Why? Because it needs to take its rightful place as our informer.
Take yourself out of automatic pilot and have a conversation with your FEAR.
What do you want to manifest in 2008?
Now, what would FEAR say?
Think about something that you want to accomplish?
Written by CK Reyes - CK is a Life Coach, Facilitator and Cheerleader of your Wildest Dreams! Contact CK from the tab above or leave your comment below.
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This is a wonderful post. I think anytime people are encouraged to get to the root of their fear, its a very good thing.
Fear is the fence that holds the herd of mediocrity, it makes cowards of otherwise strong men and women but worst of all fear robs its victims of the joy they deserve.
Great post!
Fear says OUCH!!! but then I drop into my heart.. Usually I feel better, less fearful…. but sometimes it tells me to run, get away, and once that was a very good thing. Nice post CK. Thanks
Fear is anticipation of pain, and sadly, most of the time the pain is actually not exist or not as big as what we have expected.
“Thank you for sharing”, a statement that you can tell your fear not to stop you what you really have to do!
An article here on fighting fear or small voice…
http://www.reason4smile.com/2007/12/02/five-questions-to-ask-your-little-voice/
Great article, Michelle!
Happy Holidays!
I’ve had this same struggle, CK. Lots of fear in my childhood, some justified and some not. I’ve taken an approach similar to Robert’s (above). I thank the voice of fear, listen for a moment to discern what’s being expressed, and then say to it, “You’ve had your say, now I”m taking a different direction.” That keeps me from suppressing my inner voice, even the inner voice of fear. Its acknowledged, but then I move past it as best I can.
hugs to you and Michelle too!
Bonnie
I can really relate to feeling the fear with so many things - my challenge is to feel it and take action anyway, while still having fun with whatever it is that I’m doing.
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JoLynn,
I believe fear is meant to inform us of danger, but all too often it becomes an automatic response to every desire and dream we have. When this happens many of us give into the fear and let go of our dreams. My suggestion is not “no fear” but to “know fear” Understand it. Allow it to inform you but not control you.