Sometimes.

Made a lot of mistakes but they survived me anyway.

I would not worry too much about that little girl. She’ll probably wind up being President.
.-= Corinne Edwards´s last blog ..HOW TO STOP WORRYING =-.

“Corinne, what do they need to find their own way? I’m curious… because rebelling seems to be a part of it, but if there wasn’t anything to rebel against then maybe they would share themselves more fully at a younger age! PS: Aviana is growing her hair out for a paid performance in March.”

Giving them some leeway – and then cutting off support in an important area to force them to conform to at least minimum standards.

For example, I was constantly sending money to my son when he had a rock band because the work was not consistant enough to support himself.

Finally, I said, “The bank is closed.” Pursue your music career but get a job. Any job.

He did. He found a job answering phones in an attorney’s office which specialized in discrimation. They did not object to the long hair.

Smart kid. He ended up managing the office and through that found a mentor at a wall street firm who offered him a job managing his a team of brokers. (Not as a broker – but he got his license on his own with no schooling)

He now has his own “team.”

You have to mean it when you set boundaries. It is hard.
.-= Corinne Edwards´s last blog ..TRUST – and a manicurist =-.

Irene, I’m glad you’re back on track… and saddened that I was ever derailed. I’m in awe that you can home school your children. I’ll need a tutor and my daughter will have to pay for it.

Trish, Trust me… it’s not easy!

Carl, thank you so much for that visual. It certainly helps me to remember to honor her path and do everything I can to get out of her way while at the same time teaching her the ‘basics.’

Jeremy, I so wish that the public schools supported creativity and uniqueness in our children… The revolution may need to come from the inside with parents supporting kids with the awareness that the sustainability of our planet needs the consciousness and creativity of our youth!

Corinne, what do they need to find their own way? I’m curious… because rebelling seems to be a part of it, but if there wasn’t anything to rebel against then maybe they would share themselves more fully at a younger age! PS: Aviana is growing her hair out for a paid performance in March.

Danette, I LOVE your idea. I’ve thought about it many times, but always end up with the knowing that I can’t do that! I don’t want to fight with her about homework or dedicate my time for her education. I am considering a home school co-op, but I need my space and time for me. Hopefully my being selfish with my time will serve her as well. I can support her in many ways, but that’s not one of them. Sometimes I feel sad about that, because I would like to do that… but I don’t want to!
.-= Leila (CK) Reyes´s last blog ..How To Do Great Work… =-.

Wow! What a great reminder that education is not always a requirement of great success. Michael Dell dropped out of college in favor of entrepreneurism and Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard to start Microsoft, although both of them did finish high school. It sounds like you have given the issue a lot of thought, so I have a question for you. If your daughter is lucky enough to be in touch with her purpose, why not consider letting her take the alternative route and opt out of the conventional education system? There are many options available now.

I was a home school mom myself and with the packaged curriculum out there a motivated student can complete their requirements way ahead of schedule. It requires planning yes, but if your student is motivated to finish school early and can discipline themselves to devote 4 hours a day to study, she would have lots of free time to pursue her dream. As you have said, if she has the discipline to study lines, she has the discipline to study for school. Although 12 is early this could be an opportunity for you to turn what could be a ‘drop out’ into an early graduate with her career ontrack.

Our children are not ourselves and their dreams are not our dreams. One of my parental goals is to facilitate in the quest to achieve those dreams, not to impose my own goals, and definitely not to support societal values that do not serve the children’s long term happiness.
.-= Danette Stafford´s last blog ..New Lower Limits for Child Tax Credit =-.

Re: dance instructor job

Sales does include a lot of socializing. He is a sought after partner with the ladies.
.-= Corinne Edwards´s last blog ..TRUST – and a manicurist =-.

Kids!

They do not follow your advice and it is hard to let that go.

Your daughter has walked to a different drummer for a while. (I remember when she shaved her head for charity)

I have a son who, after he finished college became an Arthur Murray dance instructor. Just what a mother dreams of, right?

Then he grew his long, curly blonde hair to his waist and had a rock band in LA. Was pretty successful at that – even sold a song to a movie – but not a reliable income.

Now he is a vice president of a major wall street brokerage. Short hair and Armani suits.

You gotta have faith.
.-= Corinne Edwards´s last blog ..TRUST – and a manicurist =-.