Comments on: How Much Longer Will You Resist Your Divine Purpose? http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/ Manifest the life of your dreams Fri, 03 Feb 2012 09:55:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Bredbånd http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1970 Bredbånd Thu, 07 May 2009 07:32:29 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1970 Thank you so much CK. My tears fell as I'm reading your reply because I didn't expect somebody like you to offer a help. I won't refuse your offer because I am really hurting inside and I wanted to know how should I go about this matter. Thank you so much. I will send you an email. Thank you so much CK. My tears fell as I’m reading your reply because I didn’t expect somebody like you to offer a help. I won’t refuse your offer because I am really hurting inside and I wanted to know how should I go about this matter. Thank you so much. I will send you an email.

]]> By: G. http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1964 G. Tue, 05 May 2009 22:09:07 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1964 Hi Michelle, It was great meeting you at SOBcon ‘09. I look forward to getting to know you better. Have a great day! Giovanna Garcia Imperfect Action is better than no Action Hi Michelle,
It was great meeting you at SOBcon ‘09.
I look forward to getting to know you better.
Have a great day!
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than no Action

]]> By: CK Reyes http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1956 CK Reyes Sun, 03 May 2009 14:15:27 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1956 Bredbånd, In my response to your comment, I'd like to invite you into a new perspective and intend that this perspective empowers you immensely. One of the first things I'd ask you to do if I were coaching you is to write out your story and then I'd ask you to separate out the fact from the fiction. It is the fiction part of our story that causes us the pain. The fiction is the meaning we attach to the circumstances or events of our life. Without the attached meaning, we are left with the facts. The facts are what we need to accept and this does not mean condoning someone's behavior. I repeat, accepting the facts does not mean condoning behavior! When you accept the facts of this event, it empowers you to move forward in your decision making process without the pain dragging you down. Here are the facts from what you wrote: 1. Your parents have been separated for years, but are legally married. 2. Your father has remarried 2 other women without legally divorcing your mother. 3. It is illegal to be married to more than 1 woman at a time. 4. The first marriage is the legal marriage. The only way there can be pain from the above facts is when attach a meaning to them. What do you make it mean that your father has committed bigamy? Accepting the facts of this event allows you to move forward. Accepting what he has done does not mean you do not follow through with actions to hold him accountable or to maintain your rights as the legal family. Suing your father for committing bigamy is not connected to him caring for you or sending you to school. It does not take away any appreciation you may have for the caring he has provided for your family. It does not cancel out the good behavior of the past. Holding your father accountable, supporting your mother in her quest, and caring for your father can co-exist. Acceptance is about allowing all of this to be as it is... Bredbånd , if you would like to have a coaching session on this topic, I'd be happy to gift you with one. Just e-mail me... and good luck sorting this all out. Bredbånd,
In my response to your comment, I’d like to invite you into a new perspective and intend that this perspective empowers you immensely.

One of the first things I’d ask you to do if I were coaching you is to write out your story and then I’d ask you to separate out the fact from the fiction. It is the fiction part of our story that causes us the pain. The fiction is the meaning we attach to the circumstances or events of our life. Without the attached meaning, we are left with the facts. The facts are what we need to accept and this does not mean condoning someone’s behavior. I repeat, accepting the facts does not mean condoning behavior! When you accept the facts of this event, it empowers you to move forward in your decision making process without the pain dragging you down.

Here are the facts from what you wrote: 1. Your parents have been separated for years, but are legally married. 2. Your father has remarried 2 other women without legally divorcing your mother. 3. It is illegal to be married to more than 1 woman at a time. 4. The first marriage is the legal marriage.

The only way there can be pain from the above facts is when attach a meaning to them. What do you make it mean that your father has committed bigamy?

Accepting the facts of this event allows you to move forward. Accepting what he has done does not mean you do not follow through with actions to hold him accountable or to maintain your rights as the legal family.

Suing your father for committing bigamy is not connected to him caring for you or sending you to school. It does not take away any appreciation you may have for the caring he has provided for your family. It does not cancel out the good behavior of the past.

Holding your father accountable, supporting your mother in her quest, and caring for your father can co-exist. Acceptance is about allowing all of this to be as it is…

Bredbånd , if you would like to have a coaching session on this topic, I’d be happy to gift you with one. Just e-mail me… and good luck sorting this all out.

]]> By: Bredbånd http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1955 Bredbånd Sun, 03 May 2009 06:24:05 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1955 It is really hard to make decisions especially when you need to weigh things and consider others feelings. Just like what I have right now, my mom is filing a case against my dad who committed bigamy (he married two more women aside from my mom). My parents have been separated for many years now but we still believe that my dad has no right to marry other woman because he is not annulled or divorced with my mom. I was terribly hurt about what my father did to us...I have this dream that someday our family will be together again but because of what he did, I don’t think this is possible anymore. I want to support my mom because I want to defend our rights as the legal family but my relatives said that we should not sue my dad because he is my father who cared and sent us to school....and that we just should accept his decision. These things further confused me...they are trying to tell me to accept what my dad did but I know deep in my heart that bigamy is against our religious belief and it is likewise unlawful. My decision is firm; I will support my mom in fighting for our rights. It is really hard to make decisions especially when you need to weigh things and consider others feelings. Just like what I have right now, my mom is filing a case against my dad who committed bigamy (he married two more women aside from my mom). My parents have been separated for many years now but we still believe that my dad has no right to marry other woman because he is not annulled or divorced with my mom.

I was terribly hurt about what my father did to us…I have this dream that someday our family will be together again but because of what he did, I don’t think this is possible anymore. I want to support my mom because I want to defend our rights as the legal family but my relatives said that we should not sue my dad because he is my father who cared and sent us to school….and that we just should accept his decision.

These things further confused me…they are trying to tell me to accept what my dad did but I know deep in my heart that bigamy is against our religious belief and it is likewise unlawful. My decision is firm; I will support my mom in fighting for our rights.

]]> By: CK Reyes http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1940 CK Reyes Tue, 28 Apr 2009 19:35:51 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1940 Why wouldn't you have the courage? Is it because you might be rejected or shamed? or judged? I think the second part is VERY common... permission! We're still asking for permission... but look underneath and see if you're looking for approval. When we are looking for approval, we always need permission from outside ourselves. I'm glad you're in my life too, Terri! See you tonight! Why wouldn’t you have the courage? Is it because you might be rejected or shamed? or judged? I think the second part is VERY common… permission! We’re still asking for permission… but look underneath and see if you’re looking for approval. When we are looking for approval, we always need permission from outside ourselves.

I’m glad you’re in my life too, Terri! See you tonight!

]]> By: Terri http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/how-much-longer-will-you-resist-your-divine-purpose/comment-page-1/#comment-1937 Terri Tue, 28 Apr 2009 18:39:23 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/?p=1284#comment-1937 OK, I asked. The first answer was to love, listen and one other that has already slipped my mind. I asked again, nothing, again, nothing and then a little voice said be your authentic self. Quite honestly I don't know if I have the courage to be my authentic self. It dosne't feel like it is about doing something, it feels like it is being something. Being open, being connected, being out of my head and into my head. What I would like to say is don't know how, however, it seems this is not exactly true. What I need is permission also. En-courage-ment, permission, directinal signs. It is good to have you in my life. OK, I asked. The first answer was to love, listen and one other that has already slipped my mind. I asked again, nothing, again, nothing and then a little voice said be your authentic self. Quite honestly I don’t know if I have the courage to be my authentic self. It dosne’t feel like it is about doing something, it feels like it is being something. Being open, being connected, being out of my head and into my head. What I would like to say is don’t know how, however, it seems this is not exactly true. What I need is permission also. En-courage-ment, permission, directinal signs. It is good to have you in my life.

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