Comments on: Give Yourself the Gift of Support http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/ Manifest the Dreams of Your Life Tue, 17 Aug 2010 16:08:34 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Vipin http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Vipin Wed, 16 Jan 2008 19:34:56 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-115 Yes I am from India. <em>Vipin's last blog post..<a href='http://www.dhoom4india.com/?p=186' rel="nofollow">Sonam Kapoor to enter Roshan camp</a></em> Yes I am from India.

Vipin’s last blog post..Sonam Kapoor to enter Roshan camp

]]> By: Vipin http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-108 Vipin Sun, 13 Jan 2008 07:11:03 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-108 I don't think asking for help is shameful. Infact your heart becomes light when you share your sorrows with others and you feel relaxed. Only thing is that for many they make it ego issue and feel ashame...don't want to look fool in front of others. Those persons have to get rid of this attitude. Otherwise catch your best friend to share your problems. <em>Vipin's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Dhoom4India/~3/215627555/' rel="nofollow">Mallika Sherawat - Escalating demands?</a></em> I don’t think asking for help is shameful. Infact your heart becomes light when you share your sorrows with others and you feel relaxed.

Only thing is that for many they make it ego issue and feel ashame…don’t want to look fool in front of others. Those persons have to get rid of this attitude.
Otherwise catch your best friend to share your problems.

Vipin’s last blog post..Mallika Sherawat – Escalating demands?

]]> By: CK Reyes http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-77 CK Reyes Tue, 08 Jan 2008 23:15:01 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-77 Yes Corinne, it is so easy to 'help' others. We consider the support we offer others as a good quality in us. Think about when someone says to you, "You are so supportive." What a great feeling. Yes, I am supportive. This year I need help with getting a regular exercise routine going and I'm going to ask for help. I will have a personal trainer hired by the end of the month. Why? because, I haven't done it by myself and I deserve to be supported in taking care of my body. What would it take for you to 'go for it' and give yourself ALL the support you need this year to have the life you want? Do you need ask for help? Then do it! Not because you are weak, but because you deserve it. What will you allow yourself to receive in the way of help this year? Yes Corinne, it is so easy to ‘help’ others. We consider the support we offer others as a good quality in us. Think about when someone says to you, “You are so supportive.” What a great feeling. Yes, I am supportive.

This year I need help with getting a regular exercise routine going and I’m going to ask for help. I will have a personal trainer hired by the end of the month. Why? because, I haven’t done it by myself and I deserve to be supported in taking care of my body.

What would it take for you to ‘go for it’ and give yourself ALL the support you need this year to have the life you want? Do you need ask for help? Then do it! Not because you are weak, but because you deserve it. What will you allow yourself to receive in the way of help this year?

]]> By: Corinne Edwards http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Corinne Edwards Tue, 08 Jan 2008 21:27:51 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-74 This is an important article. Just changing the word help to "support" gives such relief! Most of us are happy to help another and yet we deprive others ot the same good feeling. Stumbled this. It needs to be read and provide comfort to many who are afraid to ask for help. This is an important article. Just changing the word help to “support” gives such relief!

Most of us are happy to help another and yet we deprive others ot the same good feeling.

Stumbled this. It needs to be read and provide comfort to many who are afraid to ask for help.

]]> By: CK Reyes http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-62 CK Reyes Mon, 07 Jan 2008 20:24:50 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-62 When I feel afraid of rejection, I change my behavior so that I 'think' there is less chance of being rejected. I change who I am to fit into what I think will be accepted. When we behave in this way we are actually rejecting ourselves. And the ultimate question to ask in this situation is: Do I want to be accepted as myself or something I am not? If I want to be accepted as myself, I need to know that I will be rejected. Not everyone will like me. Not everyone will want what I have to offer. Not everyone will want to be my friend, etc. But those that do want what I have to offer or want to be around me or be my friend...want to be with me! Another important consideration is--Do I want to be with me? Do I like me? If I do then I don't need to be in the fear of rejection because I am not rejecting myself. Overcome? I think it is much deeper than overcoming. This is about integrating. This is about cultivating a relationship with yourself, so that you like yourself. Everything about yourself. Even those dark and ugly things about yourself that you don't want anyone to know about. Those parts of yourself that you cover up and pretend aren't there and that make you think that if they really knew me, they would reject me. What do you not like about yourself? What are the shadows lurking that say I am not worthy? Maybe selfish is one of those shadows? Selfish is a beautiful shadow. I could talk about it for a very long time. We are told that it is bad to be selfish. Don't do that or someone will think you are selfish. Parents told us that we better not be selfish. Huh? It is not being selfish that is the problem. It is the judgment that we place on it. If you are selfish then you will be rejected. Who would want to be around you if you were selfish? That is the worst thing. One of them. But I say be selfish. Look for the gift in selfish. Selfish is what will get you your dreams. Selfish is what will bring passion to your life. Selfish is what allows you to set healthy boundaries. Selfish is good. I don't mean that in a bad way. Again, we change our behavior when we think someone will think that we are selfish. So we limit ourselves. We let people take advantage of our time and energy and resources. I say that the more we can embrace selfish, the more we have to share with the world. The more we embrace selfish, the more our generosity can shine. When I feel afraid of rejection, I change my behavior so that I ‘think’ there is less chance of being rejected. I change who I am to fit into what I think will be accepted. When we behave in this way we are actually rejecting ourselves. And the ultimate question to ask in this situation is: Do I want to be accepted as myself or something I am not? If I want to be accepted as myself, I need to know that I will be rejected. Not everyone will like me. Not everyone will want what I have to offer. Not everyone will want to be my friend, etc. But those that do want what I have to offer or want to be around me or be my friend…want to be with me! Another important consideration is–Do I want to be with me? Do I like me? If I do then I don’t need to be in the fear of rejection because I am not rejecting myself.

Overcome? I think it is much deeper than overcoming. This is about integrating. This is about cultivating a relationship with yourself, so that you like yourself. Everything about yourself. Even those dark and ugly things about yourself that you don’t want anyone to know about. Those parts of yourself that you cover up and pretend aren’t there and that make you think that if they really knew me, they would reject me.

What do you not like about yourself? What are the shadows lurking that say I am not worthy? Maybe selfish is one of those shadows?

Selfish is a beautiful shadow. I could talk about it for a very long time. We are told that it is bad to be selfish. Don’t do that or someone will think you are selfish. Parents told us that we better not be selfish. Huh? It is not being selfish that is the problem. It is the judgment that we place on it. If you are selfish then you will be rejected. Who would want to be around you if you were selfish? That is the worst thing. One of them.

But I say be selfish. Look for the gift in selfish. Selfish is what will get you your dreams. Selfish is what will bring passion to your life. Selfish is what allows you to set healthy boundaries. Selfish is good. I don’t mean that in a bad way.

Again, we change our behavior when we think someone will think that we are selfish. So we limit ourselves. We let people take advantage of our time and energy and resources.

I say that the more we can embrace selfish, the more we have to share with the world. The more we embrace selfish, the more our generosity can shine.

]]> By: Robert @ reason4smile http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/comment-page-1/#comment-59 Robert @ reason4smile Mon, 07 Jan 2008 07:24:02 +0000 http://divinepurposeunleashed.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-support/#comment-59 Hi welcome back, you're coming with a very nice design and nice article! =) I've got a question... Most of the time, I hesitated to ask for the fear of rejection. Another reason, I don't want to be looked as selfish, asking other to help me... Please share your thoughts how can I overcome these? Thanks, Robert Hi welcome back,
you’re coming with a very nice design and nice article! =)

I’ve got a question…
Most of the time, I hesitated to ask for the fear of rejection.
Another reason, I don’t want to be looked as selfish, asking other to help me…

Please share your thoughts how can I overcome these?
Thanks,
Robert

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