Following Your Heart Can Be Painful
March 8, 2008
I have to trust that my heart knows. That when I have an intuitive hit and follow it, that I’m on my path - even when others don’t get it.
A few weeks ago a friend of mine, Marilyn, decided to leave her job. I didn’t get it. In fact I argued that she should stay, enjoy the benefits while looking for something else. Usually I’m a big cheerleader of just stepping out and going for what you want, but I didn’t understand her motives and thought she hadn’t thought it through.
She was clear though in her intention. Marilyn knew it would be painful, but that it was her next step. She trusted.
What the heck. Who am I to know what another persons next step is? Why should I put myself inside someone else’s motivation and think I know better.
Corinne had a great post about giving others advice. Just don’t do it. And usually I don’t. Usually I step back and work with clients to go inside to find their own wisdom, their own intuitive hit.
Then why am I so judgmental, upset, untrusting when I follow my own heart?
….Oh, when I follow my intuition and everything works out, it feels great.
But what about those other times? When I follow my heart, know that I am on path, following my steps and it doesn’t work out like I thought?
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MichelleVan:
It can be exceedingly difficult to know whether it’s your ego or your heart telling you what to do sometimes. I’ve lost count how many times I’ve dillied dallied because I wasn’t sure whether or not to go forward with a particular decision I needed to make.
Like the time when I received an opportunity to speak in front of a group of blue collar workers. In my mind, I imagined a bunch of rough men who work out on the fields, dealing with all kinds of adversity including but not limited to adverse weather, irate clients, projects that go overtime and so forth.
What could I say to these men that would inspire them? I imagined them as hardened, no nonsense kind of guys. That’s when fear gripped me.
The problem was I somehow knew I was capable of taking on this gig but I couldn’t tell if it was coming directly from my heart or not. Fear had taken over by that point and everything blurred.
In the end, I took the gig and was glad for it.
One thing I’ve learned in life is that everyone has a certain mission to carry out and none of us know what the other is supposed to do.
So, yes, following your heart can be a painful thing but based on my experience, it’s usually right on target. All I can say is that trusting your heart is a trial by error kind of thing. There’s always divine confirmation if we are open to hearing, seeing or feeling them. Each of us has a different way of receiving divine confirmation. For me it happens in the stomach region. I usually feel something down there and over time, I’ve learned to trust it.
But it’s taken a long time for that to happen.
Bottom line? Your heart “knows.” No one else.
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Michelle,
Keep following your heart. That is what keeps you alive! With the events over this last week, and all my projections, it is becoming clear to me that you have a huge heart and I love that about you. The pain in following you heart is because we don’t know what the result will be…we don’t know! But following your heart is being in integrity. Following your heart is trusting that you are on your path. You are a great example to me. Thank you for following your heart. I love you! CK
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