Do you always put others first? Their requests, their needs, their agendas, their dreams? Do you say yes, when in your heart you mean no? At the end of the day do you feel drained of your energy and resentful that the things you wanted to do for yourself didn’t get done? Do you feel angry that you aren’t living your dream?
What would it take for you to live your dreams? What would it take for you to be on fire with passion for your life?
Step 1: Put yourself first. Meet your selfish self. Decide, right now, that nothing will stop you from living your best life.
When we push away this shadow side of our humanity, we become resentful. We want to be selfish, but we are taught very early in our lives that selfish is bad. You have met those selfish people, right? You know who I am talking about. Those people who don’t care about anyone but themselves. My guess is those people really don’t care about themselves at all and this is their shadow surfacing in the outer world. This is unconscious selfish.
I suggest that we be consciously selfish. Identify your dream. Identify the elements of your life that make it worth living. Give yourself your dream. Give yourself what you need to live a happy and purposeful life. Do you need a walk everyday? A weekly massage? Maybe you are taking care of other people, but that is part of your dream. I have been around people who are consciously selfish. I like them. (I am one of them, but I haven’t always been.) These people have clear boundaries–with themselves and others. They (I mean we) say things like: I need my computer now. We say things like: no.
Step 2: Write a plan to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
Lay it out for yourself. Be very clear. Where do you want to be in a year from now? What, exactly, do you need to do to make it happen? Identify the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that might sabotage your plan. You know what they are–be honest with yourself.
Step 3: Take consistent action toward manifesting your dream.
Once you identify the steps that naturally lead you toward the life you want to live. Take consistent action toward your goal. Block out time on your calendar. Say no to choices that take you away from your dream. Get support! Check in with your plan when making choices instead of your emotions in the moment and continue the steady movement toward living your Divine Purpose more fully.
What other steps can you think of? We welcome comments below.
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Thanks for creating a beautiful blog. I have been a Reiki practitioner for roughly the last 18 years. When I first came to Reiki I did so because I was dealing with a health crisis. As I become more deeply involved with the practice certain realizations surfaced. It became increasingly clear to me that there is no such thing as a purely selfless act. Everything we do connects in some way to our higher purpose. Even when we seem to acting only for the benefit of others, such an act resonates with our own souls purpose. In that regard I believe that nothing that we do or say is completely without a Divine Purpose. Even things which seem to be entirely negative, perhaps even evil, might be seen to have a purpose which we can not immediately discern. Where there is not light, we see more clearly and treasure more dearly the flame of a single candle.
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I have noticed that many people walk around feeling guilty about doing for themselves. When people feel this way, they may show up in the world by helping others, putting themselves last, acting the martyr. That is why I love what you say, Marvin, that everything we do connects us to our higher purpose. If that is true, then maybe we could be kinder to ourselves and give ourselves what we need and want so we can live our purpose more fully. It may take a little convincing that carrying guilt and shame connect us to our higher purpose, because I have noticed that when we let go of guilt and shame, we often move very fast in the direction of our purpose. It is as if a barrier to our happiness is removed when we allow ourselves to want what we want. Thanks. CK
Great article! I’m a huge fan of “conscious selfishness” … because in the end, it’s really not selfish to take care of ourselves. When we are nurtured, we have so much more to offer others. So I think it is our job to fill ourselves first, so that we are overflowing with all that we have to give to others.
To give to others from emptiness or lack of fulfillment is somewhat inauthentic, because we are not walking our talk. We encourage self-nurture in others, but aren’t living the example. Eventually, this results in a huge energy drain.
Thanks!
Blessings,
Andrea
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Truly incredible and informative information, it is so needed! Through the process of finding my true divine purpose in life, I realized there was so much I was missing because I was not being true to myslef; I was living with an imposter, because the day I looked in mirror, and did not recognize myself, I knew it was time to take massive and drastic action. We become so entrapped in that dark ego mind, we forget there is light. We become so comfortable with what I call our discomfort zones, we believe the illusions. I found myself in a constant place of pain, my pain became my existence. I was living pay-check to pay-check, and running a race to make ends meet, and ending up in same place I began, day after day. I became tired of being tired, and started on a soul search. The process was not be easy, so I advise begin to prepare yourself. There are so many layers of garbage and baggage we walk around with, no wonder most people are unhappy, and sick.
If you live a life without purpose, you are not living life! To honor your life, and live it to it’s fullest, you have to find, yourself, ask yourself who are you and why are you here. The joy I have found in finding my Divine Purpose, has been life canging. As a result I have developed a coaching program that helps others seeking for a way out of the darkness, to find and begin to live their divine purpose. We need a global awakening!!!
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